This story reminds me on some level of the Jonathan Luna situation from 2003 (otherwise upstanding and well thought of lawyer dies mysteriously and it comes to light he appeared to be leading a double life ..death still unsolved). Suicide is the easy way out as odd as that sounds and there is some irony in a legal eagle fearing the justice system and taking his own life. Clearly, there was a lot more going on under the surface than most people knew about.

The NY Post article did mention a history of clinical depression, which is another piece of the puzzle.

The Jonathan Luna story is such a mystery. So is the death of Robert Wone, the Washington-based attorney who was murdered in his friends' house.

I worked for this guy at Fried Frank. He was a slimy bastaard flying off to Colorado to ski and the Hamptons in the summer while leaving his associates to work 90 hours on issues he just spoke to clients about and wouldn't bother to update the associate on. When he would come back, he would pissed that they spent hours working and accuse them of not reading his mind. He let incompetent and cruel attorneys who were pretty get away with murder and gave hell to the less attractive hard working ones. I'm not surprised at the alleged rape charge at all with the way he treated associates around the firm. He was bright, but you could see he favored some associates -- especially the busty one sitting in the office next to his whom he believed every time she would make up a story about someone she didn't like and have them fired. Karma. Or maybe Fried Frank tends to breed these kinds of folk. I wouldn't be surprised since he isn't the only one there.

I worked for this guy at Fried Frank. He was a slimy bastaard flying off to Colorado to ski and the Hamptons in the summer while leaving his associates to work 90 hours on issues he just spoke to clients about and wouldn't bother to update the associate on. When he would come back, he would pissed that they spent hours working and accuse them of not reading his mind. He let incompetent and cruel attorneys who were pretty get away with murder and gave hell to the less attractive hard working ones. I'm not surprised at the alleged rape charge at all with the way he treated associates around the firm. He was bright, but you could see he favored some associates -- especially the busty one sitting in the office next to his whom he believed every time she would make up a story about someone she didn't like and have them fired. Karma. Or maybe Fried Frank tends to breed these kinds of folk. I wouldn't be surprised since he isn't the only one there who think they are God.

I worked for this guy at Fried Frank. He was a slimey bastaard flying off to Colorado to ski and the Hamptons in the summer. He didn't watch the cases he worked on, let incompetent attorneys who were pretty get away with murder and gave hell to the less attractive hard working ones. I'm not surprised at the alleged rape charge at all with the way he treated associates around the firm. He was bright, but you could see he favored some associates -- especially the busty one sitting in the office next to his whom he believed every time she would make up a story about someone she didn't like and have them fired. Karma. Half the credit should probably go to Fried Frank who let partners get away with this kind of behavior all the time and breed these sleeze balls who think they are God and when there's a threat to their double life...

This guy was so gross! He was such a letch! I remember him eye-ing paralegals and associates in the hall sometimes, talking about going out for dinner or drinks. Are you talking about that associate whose name starts with a K that was working on the hotel case with him? I always saw her in those low cut dresses going into his office and kissing up to him even though she's engaged! I wouldn't be surprised if something was going on between those two as well.

I heard from a friend of a friend that this guy got drunk at the firm's golf outing and made a pass at one of the paralegals, a Chinese girl, that worked with him. I think she's left the firm since. They're lucky she didn't sue them, although they probably got rid of her instead. From what I hear, that's the way Fried Frank treats non-partners and non-associates. I'm sure she has some good story to tell.

While I am loathe to continue this discussion, a man is dead and I don't see the point of continuing to smear Andrew (falsely or not- whatever you heard from your "friend of a friend"). Andrew, like all of us, had flaws, but he was good guy, a great attorney, and generally good to work for. Let his family grieve, let the man rest in peace.

Flaws "like all of us" generally doesn't include raping people. If he's a rapist, he doesn't deserve much respect from the rest of us, regardless of how well he wrote memos.

If people are going to go around saying "he didn't do it" or "he's a great guy," they're pretty much asking for a response.

Even so, stories of him drinking at golf outings don't seem appropriate in this context. For what's appropriate to smear someone with after he kills himself, I draw the line somewhere between ogling paralegals and rape.

A friend told me about this blog, so I thought I would see what people are saying. Andy was a wonderful man who made a few mistakes. We all make mistakes. We are not perfect. The message I want to send to ALL is not to judge. Don't judge Andy, don't judge what others say about Andy, don't judge this school teacher in Atlanta. To judge another doesn't define them, it defines your own character and your need to judge others. Hopefully people will learn from this tragedy.

Skiing in Colorado? Weekends in the Hamptons?! Questionable case manager?!!! It's amazing they didn't lock him up years ago. That anyone would spread this type of gossipy bullsh*t under the tragic circumstances is despicable. The people that actually knew Andrew regard him as a good friend and father. Nobody, especially those same friends and family (who also have computers), needs to hear your two cents.

Puuuuuuuuuulease. Who are you kidding, Anonymous? Obviously you cannot be objective here. This man cheated on his wife and publically humiliated her...Guess he didn't learn from Kobe's debacle. Do you really think this was the first time???? Let's be real here. I worked at FF too and believe u me, he's not the angel you think he was. It was all about maintaining a PERFECT FACADE for this loser -- perfect job, perfect wife, perfect family, perfect IMAGE. But when the facade is shattered he's NOT MAN ENOUGHT to deal with the consequences. Had he been murdered or died of a disease, we could all mourn. But this man couldn't face looking UNperfect and decided to PERMANENTLY damage his poor young sons' and daughter's lives. There's no excuse. Good friend??? Good Father???????? heh, talk about bulls*t. The only ones who should be considering him a good friend are the 2 head partners at Fried who probably did a few hi-fives when they heard he was dead -- "yay, our firm is not going to down the tubes with this soon-to-be-convicted rapist....." Yes, believe it!! I've seen the behavior of these callous pricks and prickettes. THEY ARE ALL THE SAME. Oh, not only did his poor kids get screwed out of his life insurance policy, but they have to go through life wondering if their father really was a rapist. So sad, so sad.... Let's grieve for a poor innocent family completely let down and humiliated by its protector....not the humiliator...the adulterer...the COWARD!!!

Jesus, some pretty harsh comments from the peanut gallery. Not at all defending the guy if he raped that woman in Atlanta, but why slime him (and his name) with the blind accusations of his time at FF? The kids will have enough psychological shit to deal with as it is ...

I didn't know Andrew but I almost worked at FF, and I just wanted to say that some of you people sound so disgustingly angry with the world. The man is dead. His wife and family are in mourning. If anyone you ever knew and loved killed themselves, regardlesss of the circumstance, is this the kind of thing that you would want to read? There is the First Amendment of course, but shame on you for saying poor innocent family, and then saying these horrible things that you cannot verify and if you could. If you had an ounce of human decency, you would let the family mourn, and save your angry words for another place and another time.

Shame on me?? Shame on the other bloggers?? Are you kidding me with this stuff?? GET REAL!! Look at what this man has done to his family. On this little insignificant website, these are just words!! Never would I cheat on my spouse!! Never would I abandon my poor innocent family leaving them alone to deal with the unspeakable shame that I caused them. Shame on y'all who are praising this letcherous adulterer. All hail the rich handsome lawyer who cheated on his wife. Lets praise this great man for leaving his young kids fatherless. Listen, he looked like a great man, seemed like a great man, but was he really? As to Fried Frank, if you had actually worked there, you would be thinking differently. you wouldn't believe some of the stuff that has gone on there. As for the world, love it. Just hate to see people blindly praising an IMAGE and disregarding the PATHETIC man inside. If anyone knows Kimberley and the kids, tell them not to read this if they don't want to know about reality.

She already did, Tristan, you angry fool. Your unjustified rage is blinding at a point that you cannot even read the posts in this blog...Search, in the blog and in your soul, and you will see.....He made mistakes, he was human, like (almost) all of us. And maybe you should also learn something about life insurance policies......

Heh..heh..rage? these are words on a computer screen. just some facts and some opinions. can you feel rage from the words? guess I'm a good writer then. who is "she" and what did she already do? Sure we all make mistakes, but an intentional mistake that severely harms others, esp children, is inexcusable. It is very simple -- YOU ANSWER FOR YOUR MISTAKES, you don't do what he did!!!

"The people that actually knew Andrew regard him as a good friend and father."

I'm sure they do. But no matter who you're talking about, it's a mistake to think you can ever completely know what lurks in the heart of another human being. People are complex and will surprise you--and themselves-- every time.

If the man is dead, there's absolutely nothing to be gained by criticizing him. Death is the ultimate penalty, and anyone who doesn't realize this has some serious issues.

I was referring to the last sentence of your previous posting. She is Kim and she read your angry, bitter, uninformed, rude comments. But again, you are so into attacking this man that you don't listen to anything else. And again, learn something about life insurance policies.......

If u r so smart stef (can I call you stef?), how do you know that Kim read this. I highly doubt she's on a website reading blogs. and how do u know what I am listening too? And look who is attacking? You need to look at yourself, Stef. As someone said earlier, you shouldn't judge others...

Perhaps she knows Kim personally. Why is that so odd? People read blogs all the time, people who know him can Google his name (including his children, I'm sure), and what they'll find are your cruel smears. I'm sure you can find a more compassionate way to conduct your life. I suggest you do.

i've been reading your back n forth. sadddd....you both need to get a life! tristan obviously has issues. anonymous, you are just as bad...why lower yourself??

I'm not the original anonymous, but I can understand someone trying to urge Tristan to lower the volume -- and to at least leave a record of someone objecting to the tone of this thread and acknowledging the repercussions it will have for people who knew Andrew.

I had no idea that life insurance pays even in the case of suicide so long as the suicide is later than 2 years after the policy was taken out. Google it. Interesting.

Kudos! someone needs to teach that bastard tristan to mind his manners. it all comes back y'no...

Tristan u piece of shit. DIE!! NOW!! There, I feel better... How 'bout those Jets...

"As to Fried Frank, if you had actually worked there, you would be thinking differently. you wouldn't believe some of the stuff that has gone on there."

Most of us that did/do work at Fried Frank and have worked with Andrew would not agree with your unnecessary vitriol. In my experience and in the experiences of others, he was well-liked and well-regarded. He was an interesting and kind person. So please don't purport to speak for all of us.

This person is nothing but a lowlife scum who gets pleasure from another's pain. He's a dispicable piece of doodoo (sorry, wathcing the kids today) who is just taking up space on this earth. you might want to seek therapy!

I worked with him too. He was the sweetest man to me. Sure, he was hard on some people at work, but that goes with the territory at a big law firm. He always complimented me on my clothes and jewelry. sooo sweet. The thing I liked best was that he always let me have the day off after we spent the night together. I will always love you AT!!!!

dont you see, you all are egging this asshole on. its like you are asking for it. do you get pleasure in instigating the fool. you all need to get real lives!!!!!!!!! and you fried frankers, don't you have any work to do? you seem to spend a lot of time reading/writing blogs.

Thought I would add my two cents. I don't presume to know what happened in that hotel room. I did a lot of work with Andrew in the 1990s, and he always treated me with courtesy and respect, which at Fried Frank is atypical. I am not female, so my perspective is somewhat different, but I never personally saw any inappropriate office behavior from him. I thought he was a a great attorney and a good person, and I am very sorry he died. I am particularly sorry for his family, and for the Atlanta schoolteacher. It is a tragedy for all involved.

This thread needs to die. Whatever you're considering typing, read the other comments to this post--someone else has already said it. There's the "rapists are bad, and I think AT's a rapist" faction, the "rapists are bad, but you have no proof" faction, the "don't speak ill of the dead, even if the dead is a rapist" faction, the "don't speak ill of the dead because the dead have families of non-rapists who don't need to read this stuff" faction, the "suicides are always tragic, no matter what" faction, the "he was a good lawyer and co-worker and therefore not a rapist" faction, and the "he was a good lawyer and therefore entitled to be a rapist at least once" faction.

And there's the "meta" stuff singling out one of those factions and criticizing it. It's all been said. Let it go.

I have no idea whether the rape accusations made against Gardner are true, but I knew Gardner at Fried Frank, and the coverage that this story has received in the New York papers is entirely self serving on the part of that law firm and others who want to protect their own reputations. Gardner was no angel. Again, that does not mean he was a rapist. But if he thought he was innocent, it certainly is hard to explain his suicide.

Listen folks, it's all very simple. This man was living a lie...his life was a sham...he gave up his love for acting and men for the "perfect" career, the "perfect" family, the "perfect" persona. Inside was a man dying to be himself. It's the rock hudson syndrome. we all saw the signs, but he could quickly cover them up by flirting with a female coworker or cheating on his wife to look so MANLY. Unfortunately, his sham got the best of him. His EGO killed him. His "perfect" image was shattered, and he wasn't strong enough to pick up the pieces. As for his innocence, NO, he is not presumed innocent just because he took the easy way out. Only 1 person knows what happened in that room. Its no longer he said, she said. He had his chance to defend himself but chose not to. Sad..the real Andy inside had a lot going for him too...he just couldn't see that.

I must admit, he was one hell of an actor!

Yes, Yes!!!!!! its known as having a triple life. Ask any politician about it, but he'll probably say he has no idea what your talking about. The "other woman" is actually an ego-boosting coverup for the "other man." of course the wife always ends up getting hurt...unless youre hillary, of course.

STOP IT, JUST STOP IT!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE!!!!!!! THIS MAN WAS THE SWEETEST, MOST COMPASSIONATE, LOVING, GENTLE BEING I EVER MET. PLEASE JUST LET HIM REST IN PEACE!!!

I knew "this man," and he struck me as a creep.

1 word - KARMA!!!!!!!!!!!
It all comes back AndyG, it all comes back!!!!!!

I've gone back and forth on whether to comment here. Clearly, some of the posters are simply ignorant, some have agendas of their own, and some are sincere. But for the record (and to be as discompassionately honest as possible): I've known Andrew for nearly 20 years. I can (somewhat reluctantly) believe that he'd have an affair, though if he had I'd have expected to hear about it, and I never have. Verdict: I'd bet against general philandering.

I know (and love) Kim, and I don't believe that this was a Clintoneque 'He's a hound-dog and I stick around because it's socially worthwhile' marriage. It's VERY hard for me to imagine Andrew as a rapist. I CAN'T believe he'd not take 'no' for an answer, unless there was a lot of alcohol or some other judgement-effacing chemical involved. Verdict: could have happened, but I'd bet 'no' against long odds, and I'd STRONGLY bet 'no conviction.'

My guess is that this would have ended up with a civil settlement (possibly with several pre-decimal-zeros) for the accuser, dropped charges, and a gradual return to normalcy.

Tragically, Andrew apparently couldn't wait that long.

I have played with those kids, jammed with Andrew on a 12-string in his living room, barbequed for them, helped Andrew build a swingset for those kids... I ACHE for Kim and her children right now.

I never imagined that something like this would happen to someone close to me, and I'm sure that those close to the victims always feel this way, but PLEASE don't post some bullshit comment on this subject without knowing anything more than what the press says! There are real people here being caused real pain by your drunken late-night ramblings... it may not seem consequential to you, but imagine those kids googling their dad's name and coming across your random comments, your uninformed "closet" theories (yeah, all theater people are gay, and how would it be relevant again?) and your general rants against corporate culture (yes, Andrew was better looking, more charming, and, oh, SMARTER than you folks who jealously sneer at his corporate stardom.)

Andrew's end is a true tragedy, the facts of the story will never be known. But whatever happened was a tragedy. A real tragedy, for real people, not for the world but for HIM, his FAMILY, the woman he may have hurt in Atlanta (I don't know her name and there's no easy way to use capital letters to emphasize that last sentence, but she has my sympathy too.)

It's not a story, not a fairy-tale, not some amusement. For the people involved it's all-too-real and something that will reverberate through the rest of their lives... for the rest of you awful karmic leeches it's NOTHING but some sort of food for your fantasies about the world and an opportunity for you to spout gibberish about how you think the world works.

Shut up. Do you have some real information, something to add based on actual facts and not your own imagination or somebody else's reporting? NO? then SHUT TF UP.

Wow. When I started this I very much had the attitude of the last paragraph (to reiterate -- you don't know anything, you're projecting your fantasies on a half-known fact pattern while real people suffer, so shut the fuck up) but I couldn't read this page of stuff and not comment, so there you are.

Now a message from the INFORMED who worked with him, closely:
Who could be jealous of that fake arrogant coward?? He WAS living a lie. The marriage, the job...that wasn't Andy. He wanted out. FACT 1: He commited adultery. FACT 2: He was rude and inhumane to people he worked with. FACT 3: He was blatantly sexist at work. FACT 4: He cowardly ran from his problems by killing himself. FACT 5: He left 3 innocent children fatherless. Grant you were so "close" to him, were you one of the guys he experimented with at Harvard? Grant if your so in love with Kimberley and the kids, why don't you tell them not to google daddy's name. Actually, maybe they should. Daddy was indeed living in a fairy tale. Kids, this is the REAL world. Daddy couldn't be real. Don't be like Andrew T. Gardner, esq......he was a COWARD!!!

LET THIS BE A LESSON TO ALL U CHEATING BASTARDS OUT THERE!! IT ALL COMES BACK TO U!!

Grant is right, he was a lovely man. I am a little perplexed at why why he was jamming himself into my son in his living room, but he's dead so I will let that be water under the bridge. RIP honey.

Grant is right, he was a lovely man. I am a little perplexed at why why he was jamming himself into my son in his living room, but he's dead so I will let that be water under the bridge. RIP honey.

It sounds like you were the jealous one Mr. Kahn. Now Kimberley and the kids are all yours. Good job matee!

Hey there Grant, its Mort from temple. How is everything? How's Sandy? It's a shame about this guy, huh? That poor teacher in Atlanta. He sounds like a real douchebag! Anyway, take care and say hi to Sandy for me.

The people who claim they knew AG for twenty years are also the ones who say they can't explain why this happened. Could it be that if they had better insight into other people they would not have spent 20 years as best buddies with AG?

I'd think that a partner from the illustrious firm of Fried, Frank, Harris, Shreiver and Jacobson would be more than able to defend any kind of criminal charge whether bogus or not or at least be able to afford and have connections to pay for the best lawyers. there must be more to this story that we're not hearing.

hey lady in atlanta, you give love a bad name..

I worked very close with Andrew and NEVER NEVER NEVER saw any inappropriate behavior. I find it so interesting that people that dont know him can spit out false fact and talk out of their ass. Also, let the poor man rest in peace! Do you think his children need to hear your stupid opinions about someone you dont know about a night you werent even present for??? NO! And for the Fried Frank associates posting B.S. about him- you know your so full of lies. I worked with him for years and never - i repeate- NEVER- did he expect anyone to read his mind nor did he treat anyone unfair regardless of being a man or a woman!
i feel bad for the woman who accused him of rape- dont get me wrong- that said-- did anyone stop and think for one second that if the allegation turned out to be false how tragic this is??

The biggest impediment to "let[ting] the poor man rest in peace" is when AG's sympathizers revive a thread after 9 days of inactivity.

ARE YOU RETARDED former FFHSJ employee??? ARE YOU RETARDED???

heh..maybe you were one of the hot ones, former FFHSJ employee..ya know, one the lucky ones..heh

this thread is like andrew gardner....DEAD!!!! let it rest y'all, let it rest....

"did anyone stop and think for one second that if the allegation turned out to be false how tragic this is??"

No, dumbass, noone stopped and thought for one second that if the allegation turned out to be false how tragic this you freakin schmuk!!!!!! The man killed himself. that is about as tragic as it gets. if he knew she was lying, he also knew he could beat the charge. he killed himself for other reasons. the man had issues and was bound to kill himself at some point anyway. this was just a good excuse.

i think everyone posting on this board has too many opinions about someone and something they dont know about.

I agree. I also worked with AG and never felt/saw any inappropriatness. I think most of the people posting on this site are ignorant and probably didnt know him.

Probably. But if you don't like the comments, saying so just revives the thread and makes them more visible.

Most people can't spell, though, and they love exclamation points and capital letters.

People also seem to be a big fan of the "I was in an elevator with him once, so I therefore know the truth" argument.

I think Lat's final words on this say it best: In "he said"/"she said" situations like this one, "the truth" usually ends up being whatever version of events gets validated by the jury verdict. But in this case, there will never be a trial -- leaving the events of that evening a permanent mystery.

It's unfortunate that the commenters couldn't have just left it at that.

Has anyone stopped to ponder the question why this kind loving gentleman would abandon his innocent babies, an adorable daughter and 2 wonderful twin boys who loved him to death, npi??? It is bewildering to say the least. He was a high-profile lawyer for God's sake. The man knew about justice and courtrooms and litigation. What was he hiding? Can anyone add some insight here that isn't a bunch of bullshit gossip? Thank you. Jen McD.

The Work ( an unorthodox organisation) will humiliate their enemies by proxy to ruin their lives. The Work is very successful at achieving its goals by proxy. AG had many enemies, all it takes is one enemy to make The Work list. Standard operating procedure for The Work is to post many replies following this post stating they do not exist, and that none of their cells would do something so reminiscent of their founder's philosophy.

YOU GOTS THE WRONG WEBSITE DUDE. SCIENTOLOGY DOESN'T BELONG HERE!!!!!!

We do not exist, please stop referring to us in posts. This will be one of many replies if you do not comply. Thank you.

I have been trying to understand why some of the post are so vicious and debase; exemplifying a hatred usually reserved for the most vilified fascist in modern history.

You have hated AG for a very long time and in your depravation you are now CELEBRATING his death, and your success!

I know your name, and it is MEGALOMANIAC !

Man is an immortal, spiritual being. His experience extends well beyond a single lifetime. His capabilities are unlimited, even if not presently realized — and those capabilities can be realized. He is able to not only solve his own problems, accomplish his goals and gain lasting happiness, but also achieve new, higher states of awareness and ability.

In Scientology no one is asked to accept anything as belief or on faith. That which is true for you is what you have observed to be true. An individual discovers for himself that Scientology works by personally applying its principles and observing or experiencing results.

Through Scientology, people all over the world are achieving the long-sought goal of true spiritual release and freedom.

-CoS

Will scientology make me as happy as Tom Cruise? how can one as enlightened and advanced as Tom marry a complete neophyte of scientology? Does she automatically advance to gunu-7 stage through marriage, or is she stuck in shitake-9 level? Please advise.

Why on earth do you, mr. wannabe, purport to know that Tom Cruise is happy? A large group of us believe that this man will never be happy, that is unless a new surgical procedure is discovered during his lifetime that would add 4 inches to his midget-like frame. (that's vertically of course..)

Do you really think he is happy having to stand on his tip-tippy-toes to kiss his wife? I don't.

The "HATER" , the following is a forensic psychological profile of the "HATER"
1. Did not attend school(s) with AG.
2. Has hated AG for many years.
3. Has been extremely patient over the years when many prior attempts on AG were unsuccesful.
4. Is a male.
5. Enjoys hate group meetings.
6. Writes and directs the scenario rehearsals at hate group meetings.
7. Is considered an excellent stalker by his peers, both on the internet and when stalking in person.
8. Is homophobic.

"3. Has been extremely patient over the years when many prior attempts on AG were unsuccesful."

What does that mean?

Dude, #3 and #8 contradict each other. or has being rejected by the hot lawyer caused this "HATER" to become homophobic?

Why is everyone so harsh on AG? It's the 3rd firm I have worked at and it's the bomb. I never want to leave!

...and why would a AG hater be homophobic? Does this firm have a lot of gays? I had no idea. not that it matters.

hello Father,Fried Frank gets even, better tighten your cilice !

hello "the Father", the Pope says driver commandment #1 is " thou shall not kill".Time to take the car keys away! Your losing control of the World Bank must have hurt. GW had a special word for you to His Holiness; evil , sinner , murderer ; your guess.

Iam a life long friend of the girl in atlanta. She would never lie about anything, much less this. I dont think she even has one enemy in her life. She lives with this tragedy every day of her life and that is never going to change. I did not know andrew but im very sad for his family. He was not the victim, she was. Suicide is aweful but the people you leave behing suffer the most. The rape happend and i would stake my life on it.

She did lie, and she knows it. She destroyed many lives, not just Andrew's, and she will have to live with that for the rest of hers.

I am the mother of the rape victim. I would like to say to all of you who have written here.... You all have no unearthly idea what my daughter has endured this past year. She has isolated herself, suffered major depression, not eaten, slept, and suffered major emotional anxiety. Andrew stripped my daughter of her bubbly personality and trust in people. She is a caring, thoughtful human being that didn't deserve being taken advantage of by someone who thought he was above the law. She lives everyday feeling sorry for his wife and children, but she is not the one who committed this crime. If he felt he was so innocent why did he take his life? The evidence was stacked up against him and he knew it. We are a Christian family that relies on our faith to see us through the difficult trials in life. We pray for his family and are sorry he left them with this mess. But, my daughter is the victim here and she is also left so suffer the aftermath this criminal behavior. She will forever be scared from this. Where is her justice?

What your daughter is suffering from is well-deserved guilt, resulting from her lies, her greed, and her knowledge of what really happened. That is her justice.

Um, 12:17, why would a millionaire litigation partner in a major firm commit suicide over a _false_ accusation of rape?

Um, 12:17, why would a millionaire litigation partner in a major firm commit suicide over a _false_ accusation of rape?

Perhaps you should have been praying for your daughter before she agreed to listen to music at 4am with a man she did not know. Andrew was not a rapist. Andrew was not violent. Andrew made the mistake of trusting a woman he did not know, and did not smell her greed. She obviously saw an opportunity to extort a man who had a lot more to lose than she was aware. And now she has to live with the tragic outcome of her choice. That is her justice, and she will carry the truth of what happened that night with her the rest of her days. Knowing that her false accusations destroyed the lives of his wife and children is her sentence. We all lost something that night, but those of us who knew and loved Andrew lost much more than your daughter. May your God forgive her, because I don't think I can.

Excuse me, but were you there when this incident occured? First of all, my daughter was at Grady Hospital at 4 a.m. getting a rape test. Do you think if she wasn't raped she would have gone knocking on doors half naked to get help? Andrew attacked her when the door closed to that room. This happened at 2 a.m. My daughter was the trusting one. Andrew asked her to come see the view of Atlanta from his room. HE was the one with the motive here. She was planning on leaving shortly after. She had to teach the next day. How dare you accuse her of anything. This is not the first time Andrew has cheated on his wife. He just got caught this time!!!..My daughter did not even want to face him in court. She certainly was not after his money. You don't even know my daughter, and if you did....you would never say that. It amazes me that a victim of such a crime is raked thru the coals. This gives every woman who is tramatized by such an event that much more reason to never come forward. I am proud of my daughter for speaking up for her rights. Andrew Gardner may have fooled you but he hasn't us. He killed himself because HE KNEW he raped her, pulled the phone out of the wall, and bolted the door, and tried to prevent her from leaving. GUILTY!!!! Live with that.

Are you as unscrupulous as your daughter, or have you simply been taken in by her lies, too? You weren't there that night, either, and you have reported things that simply did not happen, and left out plenty that did happen and in which your daughter was involved. You sound as though you are frantically trying to reassure yourself that your daughter is not responsible for an innocent man's death -- but she is, and I suspect you know it. So live with that.

Cheating on your wife is not a crime. Cheating on your wife is not rape. Rapists, to the best of my knowledge, do not perform oral sex on their victims. Your rant exposes your logic.

She had to teach the next day, but agreed to go to the hotel room of a man she had just met at 2am to see view of the city in which she lived, and which she most likely could have seen from the penthouse they just left?

I support all legitimate victims of sexual assault, but false claims do more damage to true victims of such crimes. Be very careful when throwing stones.

If you are falling for the disgusting lies from his attorney, you are just as pathetic. Of course he is going to make it sound consensual. However, rape is continuing agression against someone's will. When my daughter is crying and telling him to stop and he does not, what do you call it?What woman do you know who, half naked, would leave a room hysterical, knocking on doors for help? She knew nothing about his financial status, so don't even go there about greed. You don't want to admit that your dear friend had another side. What kind of man would leave his family by taking his life.? If he thought he was so innocent he should have fought back. He knew he lied to the police and he knew he couldn't hide from the truth. Selfish act on his part. Just another side to his character you just don't want to see. Yes, my daughter should not have gone to that room. She is a trusting and innocent victim. Unless you have never made a bad decision in your life I suggest you stop throwing stones. I know my daughter's character and nothing you can say will sway me to your thinking. She WILL rise above this and will be an advocate for others who have the misfortune of becoming victims of rape.

Talk to your daughter. Ask her how drunk she was. (Very.) Ask her about making out in the parking garage before she went up to the room. (There's a video.) Ask her about how often she calls the police. (Often.) Ask her how often "rapists" let their "victims" take bathroom breaks, and why she didn't just walk out the front door of the hotel room, which was a step from the bathroom. Ask her why she called Andrew's home. And then ask her how mad she was when she found out he was married, and how she took her greed-fueled revenge.

Imagine for a moment that your husband, paragon of Christianity that he may be, cheated on you and was then unjustly accused of rape. Imagine that he was thrown in jail for a week, despite no physical evidence of force, and despite having never had a single brush with the law in his entire life. Imagine that he was then humiliated in the press and at work, threatened with a criminal action that might have taken his freedom and a civil lawsuit that might have cost him more than he had in the world. Imagine that he was desperately afraid that he would not be able to support his family after paying off his accuser. Do you think it's possible this might have made him terribly depressed, unable to think clearly, even suicidal? Maybe not -- maybe your husband is stronger than Andrew. But when you're doing all that praying for the people Andrew left behind, you should pray you never have to find out.

They left me
with your shadow,
saying things like
Life is not fair

& I believed them
for a long time.

But today,
I remembered
the way you laughed
& the heat
of your hand
in mine

& I knew that
life is more fair
than we can
ever imagine
if we are there to live it

this is his eldest son
for the longest time i've thought about responding to this blog
to the last actual comment writer
thank you for saying what i could not say after filling my heart with hate, anger, after reading this blog
to all of those who think he is gulity to put it plainly go to hell
he was innocent and to the mother a child can lie to there parents think about it its true
but how often does a parent lie to there child and tell ur daoughter thats shes ruined my life i now have 2 go throughout the rest of my life without a father because of your daughters greed and jealousy
you say she ran down the halls screaming then why did she have to go all the way downstairs to find someone to lie to
he was a great man and will sorrrowly missed
and i will love him forever